“Accidents happen”, “People make mistakes”, “Get over it”. These are phrases people have come up with to help us understand how flawed we are as humans. So why is it these words never seem to bring us any comfort?
We say, “Yeah, I know,” and then privately wish we had made a different choice or think we are a screw up. But where does that get us? Does beating our selves up because we forgot to pay a bill make us any better at remembering to do it next time? Not likely.
So first step is to say, “Did this screw up hurt anyone?” If it did, spend your energy helping them – not condemning yourself.
Next, ask yourself, “If I did it again, would it kill me?” Usually not. So let it go. As we really rationalize the occurrence, we see it’s not a big deal. Life will go on, and the next screw up is just around the corner, so why not embrace it for what it is?Your unique imperfection. It’s a charming quirk about you that makes you different. You can accept it or deny it, but it’s you.
The great part about accepting our mistakes, our quirks, and ourselves is it gives us a whole new sense of freedom. It’s not a license to be reckless, but it is a chance to say, “Whatever, I’ll live through this.”
A side effect is people will see you differently: a person that can handle anything, doesn’t lose their cool, really embraces life. And now not only are your problems suddenly melting away, but other people are beginning to see you as an authority on happiness. So what went from something “isn’t going to kill you” just became a small change in attitude that will enrich your life, and you may actually live longer and stronger.
So don’t sweat the small stuff. Who knows? Maybe it hurts for a second, but it’s not going to kill you.